hello, dainis
i have had tinnitus for just about 2 months now at first it was a semi soft non constant buzzing (small timed bursts) sound, i went to the doctor and he said it’s probably just a side effect from my last sinus infection which was in the last week of march, then 1 day after taking the medicine that was given to me, my buzzing sound went away, but i had a whole new sound in the opposite ear, now it was a constant soft low pitch ringing sound (i think in the background of the ringing sound, i heard a morse code sound aswell) i went to the doctor again and he said it should go away within a week but i waited 2 weeks and nothing it was the same sound, then i went to my “actual doctor” and she told me that in order to diagnose my tinnitus, i have to go to a nose and ear specialist, she thinks it’s because i drink WAY too much caffine (i love caffine) or because i listen to loud sounds all the time. now i met with her 3 weeks ago and i still haven’t gone to the specialist yet, (im afraid to go because im afraid they’ll tell me it’s incureable) do you think i should go ASAP or what im only bearly 17 and i really don’t want to live with this fucking sound for all my miserable life, (pardon the langauge but im very mad at myself for letting this happen too soon and too fast) now i met with this old man who had chornic tinnitus for over 10 years (one of my dads very good friends) and that he healed himself with 3 bottles of “tinni fix” over the course of 3 to 4 months, an unoffical pill that is “proven” to relief and take away tinnitus permenatly” now i really don’t what to do either take the pill or go to a specialist, please i need someone’s opinion (not family not close friends) i have really just thought about suicide, but i just don’t know i pray to god for a cure, (but i know it’ll never come, not in my life time that is) well anyway i hope you can help me, thank you and have a nice day (i now i won’t) :’(reprinted anonymously with the author’s permission
hey,
well, suicidal thoughts are common at the outset of tinnitus, actually doing the act is something completely different. if you are ever motivated to go that far, i strongly suggest you seek help from a local or national crisis center.
i just looked up http://suicidehotlines.com/ and http://www.thelisteningear.net.../ and i’ll tell you the listening ear center in Lansing has been a real blessing in my life personally, so i recommend them highly.
now, since you are working through the issue and looking for answers, let’s leave ending your life as an option on the table, but evaluate whether it’s worth it:
1) tinnitus can be healed, i’m WAY WAY better than at onset, i’ve interviewed a good number of people who have healed themselves, and there are people who are available that can help.
So, looking at that one: sure, your docs may “say” it’s incurable, but just watch my is tinnitus curable video. If they say that, then they are simply wrong. They don’t have the facts. In a sense, you’d be killing yourself due to someone else’s ignorance.
2) you are currently in a lot of pain
Yes, you are, if you watch the interviews of people who used to have tinnitus, it’s the same story. We know how much it sucks, how much it hurts, how disorienting it can be…and we know how awesome it feels to get onto the other side of tinnitus.
Looking at that one: you could end your life due to your current pain level. Some people do that. But there are lots of people who’ve gotten through that pain to the other side, who’ve learned a whole lot about health and themselves in the process, and who literally FEEL GREAT and feel GRATEFUL for having had tinnitus.
Which group do you want to be a part of? The group that said “ahh, hurts too much, bye?” or the group that said “i can make it” and then wound up feeling BETTER THAN EVER?
3) You are young and have “this thing.”
Yes you are, and you listen to loud music and drink a lot of caffeine. Your body is already guiding you to the solution. Are you going to listen to your body or destroy your body?
4) You don’t want to take some pill
OK, are there any other options? When in crisis, we sometimes only see ONE option, when there are in fact many.
5) You pray for a cure but know it will never come
OK, if that is your stance, why bother writing to me? I don’t need to know about you then. You can go about your dealings in your own way, if you want to base your decisions on beliefs that do not reflect facts, then that is your choice. Does that make sense? The path “out” from tinnitus is a process and not “a cure,” but that path does exist and many have walked it. You don’t have to believe BS. Really. Ask yourself if it serves you.
6) You don’t want to go to a specialist
OK, which specialist do you not want to go to? If you don’t want to go to a specialist who can’t help you, that makes sense. If you don’t want to go to a specialist who CAN help you, then that is something else entirely. If that is your stance again, why bother writing to me?
Here are the guidelines we use at CureTinnitus.org
1. Build a network of support (relaxing, helpful, funny)
2. Get appropriate and relaxing body work (massage, cranio sacral, etc., find what suits you)
3. Get appropriate and relaxing counseling (psychotherapy, counseling, etc., find what suits you)
4. Do your personal relief stuff, get the rest you need, go on those walks, take time out for yourself, yes, do some stuff for yourself.
Frankly, that sounds umm…relaxing, centering, and FUN to me. I mean, you get to actually start healing from your “stuff,” you get to relax and have fun, and you start hanging out with really supportive people.
Anyway, now that I think about it, can I use your email as a post at my site (anonymously of course), because I get a lot of these kinds of emails and it would be great if the info were right there…especially if someone is thinking about suicide…you know?
You’re almost 18, but for now, I urge you to have a parent, guardian, friend, or relative help you subscribe to curetinnitus.org here:
http://www.curetinnitus.org/st...-tinnitus/
…you can scroll to the bottom of the page and there is a trial for $1 for one month. then take that month really seriously in your life. absorb the info and then see if it’s fair of you to continue on and not only pay for curetinnitus.org membership, but for the other therapies outlined in our 4 guidelines.
YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS.
Best,
Dainis
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"When I started the programme shortly after developing T, I was terrified of tinnitus and felt that I had no control over it. I lay awake at night panicking that it would get worse. I am now much calmer about it, thanks largely to this site and Julian Cowan Hill's e-book which I strongly recommend. I am beginning to realise that my pace of life consistently exceeds my energy levels and that my T is probably connected to this. For me, T fluctuates a lot, but when I have a bad patch I comfort myself that it will probably lessen after a few days if I take better care of myself. I have only had a few minutes of total relief in the past five months, sometimes before going to sleep or early in the morning, but I'm aware that I have a long way to go in the personal wellbeing stakes, so it would be surprising if I were already better. The school holidays are a very busy time for me and the fact that I have got through them without a major tinnitus meltdown is itself encouraging. I shall be tuning in for the next show! Best wishes, D.H."
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"I'm just 26 and enjoy loud music so was terrified when I thought my tinnitus was getting so bad that I'd hear it all the time. I went into a state where I kept monitoring it and thought that it had suddenly gotten really bad. This was about a week ago and coincided with a very stressful day so I suspected that had something to do with it. Your site has helped IMMENSELY in alleviating my concerns about it and now I'm pretty much totally over the fear that I'll have ringing in my ears my whole life. In fact, since a few hours after reading the information on your site, I've stopped noticing it at all, and I'm not worried about it when trying to sleep (I don't hear it during the day now because I'm not listening for it and I'm more relaxed so its quieter). Now that I'm proactively relaxing myself and trying to be happier in my life, the ringing has mostly subsided and I can only hear it when I put my fingers in my ears to create complete silence. From suicidal thoughts to complete peace in under 2 hours. Thank you again!!" PS: I even went to a Metallica concert last night and forgot to bring my earplugs -- and the tinnitus has not flared back
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PPS From Dainis: Yes, we do have stories like these, though for some members, the process takes longer. In any case, it's enjoyable to come "out" from tinnitus and experience well being. Thanks Tegan for sharing :-)
do you still have tinnitus. im 15 and iv had it for a few years now, i was coping with it but im falling apart now i just cant cope any more its louder than ever i can even hear it listening to music its detroying my life i have lost interest in everything including my career aspirations and my gereral attitude to life. do you know of ANY treatment centers in the uk?
@TeenTin: Yes, go see Julian Cowan Hill in London. Let him know how you found him. You can also talk with your parent(s) or guardian(s) about joining CureTinnitus.org. There is a lot you can do to feel better. Hang in there, get the right info and therapies, and you’ll be better than you were before. I still have a tiny tiny bit of tinnitus but go for days without hearing it. I’ve interviewed people who’ve gone completely silent or who’ve helped others achieve complete silence. It’s possible, it’s doable, and you can do it. Just having the initiative to write to me says A LOT about you. Awesome!
how would i contact this person? and how am i meant to get there? i live much further [edited]. this is where the feeling of helplessness comes from, i just cant do anything about it and its ruining me. i had so many things i wanted to achieve in the future but they are all diapearing and its really affecting my metal state.
please, do try to stop…i understand the spiral. it is toxic and dangerous. you can join CureTinnitus.org. talk with people, parents, friends, teachers. let people who care about you know that you are suffering. let them help you. call crisis lines if you want to. you are right where tinnitus puts you, but others have gotten through and so can you. you have to reach out for the help you need. there’s lots of help available. the curetinnitus.org program teaches people to set up their therapy right where they live. frankly, after you are over the hump…tinnitus will no longer be a big deal to you…it just won’t. the feeling of helplessness is just a symptom. it’s big and tough and scary and all…but it can and will go away if you take care of yourself properly…and you CAN do that.
honestly, just put “it feels like” at the beginning of those negative thoughts, and add “right now” at the end of them.
So, it’s “it feels like tinnitus is ruining me right now.” Because it does not have to…
i used to be strong and i cant believe these thoughts are going through my head. i was thinking, “is this it?” which a month ago i would never have thought right now i am alone nobody can truly understand what is going on. if tinnitus was the only thing wrong with me then this wouldnt be so bad. i will look at the curetinnitus.org site but i somehow doubt it will help. i do take care of my self but nothing ever helps i eat healthily and do plent of execise and i try to relax during the night but everything has just been to much lately. nobody sees it because i hide it
“right now i am alone nobody can truly understand what is going on”
…look, that is a symptom of tinnitus. almost everyone feels that way at first.
check this out:
http://www.curetinnitus.org/teenage-tinnitus-can-you-help-me/
a lot of people want results “right now,” and if you don’t get results the next day, you mistakenly think “nothing ever works for me.” but that’s not true.
as miserable as you feel, you are going through a completely normal process with tinnitus. yes, everything has been “too much lately” for you, and that’s what you need help with. being emotionally taken care of, being held, being physically comforted.
so, do access that care.
i’ll see if i can include some key points on teenage tinnitus on today’s cure tinnitus show. for now, i’d like to put our correspondence out on the web (anonymously of course), and let me know if you have anything against that…since you’re contacting me anonymously it makes sense that i could put our messages back and forth out online…
Hear me when i say you are not alone.
Hear me through all the noise and the pain.
There’s nothing wrong with you, you’re not insane.
You need comfort not fixing, cradling not criticizing…
The noise can settle into peace
You can experience loving release
Do the right thing and get the help you need
There are people waiting right now
Call them, go to them, talk to them today
Relief is a few good choices away.
Sincerely,
Dainis
bro, i think i have the same sh*t and im 16! school is hella boring so im in my own world every day listening to music. and when i come home my mom is just crazy so i dont take of my headphones. its gona suck but ima try not to listen to em for atleast a month. lets fight threw this sh*t, ait!!
you are 2 years out from a significant step towards your independence. start listening to some soothing stuff…things that help you settle. get going with the 4 CureTinnitus.org Program Guidelines described in Show #24, and if you need a log in, hit me up. we’ll be expanding our program for teens with tinnitus this year…feel free to join us…