Recorded June 28th, 2010!
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Hi, Thank you so much for this site. I often log on at night when my tinnitus is bothering me and the rest of the family is sleeping. It helps me to get things into perspective and then get back to sleep. I wonder if it would be possible to do a show, or part of a show on night-time coping strategies. Maybe I’m not alone in finding this a difficult time. I guess the loneliness of the condition peaks at night. Plus, I’ve noticed a strange anomaly; when I go off to sleep the tinnitus can seem quieter, but then if I wake up in the night I find it’s got louder again and then I get distressed. How can this happen?! Bless you both for your continued work on this site. Really really appreciate your dedication and insights. –D
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LAUD you for your compassion and initiative...
"I really appreciate what you’ve put together. Truly comforting.…LAUD you for you compassion & initiative on this!"
--Bob M.
Appreciate it beyond words
"Delighted, appreciate it beyond words…"
Julian Cowan Hill R.C.S.T.
"If you really look after yourself and learn to get in touch with how you are feeling inside and learn to process that, that is the way out of tinnitus. Most people spend their whole lives running away from themselves, filling their lives with furious frantic activity, proving this, doing that. The best thing you can do is sit with yourself and notice how you are, how you are treating yourself. And if you can treat yourself with loving kindness and really accept how you are with a really wonderful, open-hearted, deep, caring approach, just like you would mother a baby, for example. If you can really look after yourself, your nervous system will change. Nothing is fixed. Everything is constantly changing and flowing, and it is entirely dependent on the way you approach yourself. Look after yourself, and your tinnitus will back off."
Wow, good stuff...“I REALLY appreciate your asking Julian about my questions this morning! You posed them in such a clear and dear way and protective of my ‘identity”. It is amazing that I was home and able to listen. I had over slept, (I am on vacation) had missed an early appointment for my car and so I called, cancelled it and looked on my computer and it was 8 minutes to the broadcast! Was I surprised, delighted and grateful to hear you both discuss the issues that are pressing me. I thank you. I also am taking your website and Julian’s advice and working on awareness of RED-ALERT and difficulty surrendering or relaxing into support. Wow, good stuff. Julian reminds me a bit of Ekhart Tolle. Doesn’t he you? And funny to say, you remind me of myself when you are questioning him! With gratitude”
-- L.G. Connecticut
I really feel you're going to make some peoples' lives millions of times better. I really do.
I would just like to say thank you for what you are doing. This world is really lacking people like you that aren't all about themselves. It really makes me pleased to see that you're getting your and Julian's ideas out there, and I really feel you're going to make some peoples' lives millions of times better. I really do.
--Samuel Diego-Cunha Wetzel, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
Already Recommended 2 Friends..."What a great site….Thanks so much! I already referred the Yahoo forums tinnitus group to your site and also 2 friends with tinnitus."
--Meta_4
Solid and needed work"Thank you and keep up your solid and needed work."
Eric G.
Saved my life...--B.
Kevin Hogan
"It's not unethical to say that it's incurable, it's just totally incorrect. In fact, if I go back and I look at the cases that I've worked on, and I've worked with thousands of people over a decade, and the vast majority, are either dramatically better, or their tinnitus is gone. One of the two."
...my tinnitus was gone
""It is not coincidence that I saw your e-mail this am, right at the time I realized my tinnitus was gone."--E. B. California
Dr. Hans Greuel
"I can say in good conscience that tinnitus is curable. That's the bottom line: that tinnitus is curable, and I dare say, for just about everyone who comes down with it."
Please don't tell the ATA"As I may have mentioned earlier, ATA.org is incredibly mediocre (if that much!), compared to your organization. I even found the British T. site far superior to ATA.org and now, I have found you guys!!!"
--R. S. Illinois
(Honestly, we want to stay friends with the ATA and we cherish the work they do...so let's keep this one between us...)
Great Conference Calls“…The conference calls are great as we can help each other”
--R
Paul Tobey
"It's such an incredibly low volume if I recognize it once a week it's just because I'm out in the backyard looking at the stars thanking the universe for what it has given to me, and I go 'how did I get to this point?" Oh yeah tinnitus helped me get here. Let's listen to it for a second, let's pay hommage to the tinnitus for a second and go thanks you did some good work. Thank you.
T is becoming less and less noticable"…with the help of this site, I am learning to deal with [edited] and my -T- is becoming less and less noticeable."
--B
You Are Truly An Insipration"I just want to add that you are truly an inspiration and I hope that more people find your website. I find your videos (and especially this one) to be enlightening, and it really gives me hope, and I’m sure others too. God bless."
--J
Literally clearing the fog from 20 years of T
"the information, research, support, and shows with dainis and julian are literally clearing the fog of the T i have endured for 20 years. it’s not about the ears it’s about the body and soul. i’m sure ancient wisdom had more answers to T than the entire medical community has at this time. this site is really quite groundbreaking."
--S
Mental Clarity And Calm
"A very simple thing - progress for me today was after work,instead of "rushing" home because of fatigue, I walked down another street and sat in the sun with a warm beverage. This resulted in some mental clarity and calm, as well a experiencing a choice of a positive new behavior. It felt expansive...'cause T can lead one to be hemmed in."
--Member s.
RE: Gone?
"After a short period of T-free happyness, my T (scale 4/10) came back for a few weeks (stressfull times, bought a house etc..). Did lots of relaxation exercises, stretching and yoga and now it's gone again (scale 1/10). I would like to ask Julian about the following [...edited...] Keep up the good work!!!"
--Member R.
Much Calmer About Tinnitus Now...
"When I started the programme shortly after developing T, I was terrified of tinnitus and felt that I had no control over it. I lay awake at night panicking that it would get worse. I am now much calmer about it, thanks largely to this site and Julian Cowan Hill's e-book which I strongly recommend. I am beginning to realise that my pace of life consistently exceeds my energy levels and that my T is probably connected to this. For me, T fluctuates a lot, but when I have a bad patch I comfort myself that it will probably lessen after a few days if I take better care of myself. I have only had a few minutes of total relief in the past five months, sometimes before going to sleep or early in the morning, but I'm aware that I have a long way to go in the personal wellbeing stakes, so it would be surprising if I were already better. The school holidays are a very busy time for me and the fact that I have got through them without a major tinnitus meltdown is itself encouraging. I shall be tuning in for the next show! Best wishes, D.H."
--Member D.H.
T subsided...
"After suffering from a catastrophic tinnitus for almost two years,it subsided in the last month to level 5 in a scale of 1-10 and sometimes even to level 2...My question is what will happen when I..."
--Member a.
Taking Better Care Of Myself
"information on T is settling in to my psyche, some underlying depression issues are being addressed, I'm getting on with life, taking care of myself better, and doing things I enjoy more. I have even recently shed a negative friend or 2...thank you"
--Member s.
Your site has helped IMMENSELY...
"I'm just 26 and enjoy loud music so was terrified when I thought my tinnitus was getting so bad that I'd hear it all the time. I went into a state where I kept monitoring it and thought that it had suddenly gotten really bad. This was about a week ago and coincided with a very stressful day so I suspected that had something to do with it. Your site has helped IMMENSELY in alleviating my concerns about it and now I'm pretty much totally over the fear that I'll have ringing in my ears my whole life. In fact, since a few hours after reading the information on your site, I've stopped noticing it at all, and I'm not worried about it when trying to sleep (I don't hear it during the day now because I'm not listening for it and I'm more relaxed so its quieter). Now that I'm proactively relaxing myself and trying to be happier in my life, the ringing has mostly subsided and I can only hear it when I put my fingers in my ears to create complete silence. From suicidal thoughts to complete peace in under 2 hours. Thank you again!!" PS: I even went to a Metallica concert last night and forgot to bring my earplugs -- and the tinnitus has not flared back
-Tegan Nejad: Perth, Australia
PPS From Dainis: Yes, we do have stories like these, though for some members, the process takes longer. In any case, it's enjoyable to come "out" from tinnitus and experience well being. Thanks Tegan for sharing :-)
I am a new member and have not watched all the shows yet. I am wondering therefore if there are any interviews with people who have successfully liberated themselves from tinnitus using the advocated methods of this site (apart from Julian himself). Interviews with folk such as Kevin Hogan are great but he used a range of methods such as Xanax and hypnotherapy. I would love to hear how someone has used the nuts and bolts of the “Tyrant to Friend” methodology and made tinnitus their friend. In fact Dainis have you successfully used this yourself as I think I have this right and that you still have tinnitus? I am trying the methods but stuggling particularly re; the body work to focus on the body when the tinnitus spikes are loud – my mind locks in to the noise and I don’t seem able to get my mind to shift – hence why it would be great to hear the exerience of others. Many thanks.
Hi Dainis,
As usual I’m logging on for a tinnitus show in the middle of the
night! The connection being that this is when I am most stressed about
the condition and most need the support of seeing you and Julian being
HOPEFUL and POSITIVE!!! BLESS YOU! I haven’t checked my e-mail for a
while, so I’m sorry I haven’t got back to you about ‘hosting’ before
now. I think it would be a good idea to have a guest host sometimes,
just to better convey the idea that we are indeed a community, or
maybe even a continuum of people working through the stages of
grappling with this condition.
I’m not yet at a place where I feel I can personally do this. And even
saying this is a sign of improving self-awareness and well being in my
case!!! Generally I’m someone with a very high sense of duty and I’m
very quick to agree to ‘help’, but I’m learning that I’m actually
quite a shy person and that my orientation to ‘help mode’ often
depletes my resources too much. Recently, following Julian’s advice, I
have begun to ask what my body ‘thinks’ about stuff. It’s
extraordinary!! I’m learning that so often my mind / sense of
conscience / duty is saying YES and my body is screaming NO!! Your
suggestion sets up just exactly this response. Now clearly you are not
suggesting that we all avoid challenging situations indefinitely.
However, when we are in ‘fight or flight’ we have got there because of
a tendency to over-challenge ourselves!!
I am absolutely delighted that you feel ‘too relaxed’ to do justice
to your struggling members. I’m just so please for you that you are so
well in yourself. What better advertisement for the programme could
there possibly be?!!! I’m a secondary school teacher by background and
I have now become a novelist. I love teaching and taught teenagers for
thirteen years until I had a nervous breakdown and regretfully had to
admit that I like teaching, but my nervous system didn’t! So I’m now
doing quieter more introverted work and following a long and heart-
felt ambition to write. What I have wondered is whether I could
contribute to the community by assembling a kind of diary of my
‘route’ through this condition. Starting where I am now which is
‘stuck’ but trusting this programme to move me forwards. What do think
about this idea? Perhaps other members who have gone the whole
distance (yourself included) could also produce a little history of
their recovery to inspire and encourage others? I love the tree idea.
I think most people will be able to tell you when they have got to the
tree stage, whether it is just before or after full recovery!! What
type of tree can we plant? Can mine be a poplar when I get there?!!
All the very best!
Hai Dainis,
You don’t hear it anymore?? Had you spikes like me in the night??
But level 4 is not good enough to reach silent is it?? YOu must have been in 7 for that?
How’s the status of some members? improvements?:)
Have you had contact with jennifer recently?
For the tinnitus show…I like to be anonymous, but I like the idea…What if we include jennifer in a show..?
Well. some thoughts for you this time…
Between work and entertaining, visiting, etc. I haven’t had much chance to BREATHE but: I did just watch Show #20 and found it wonderful, as usual.
I am about 80% better, yes. Or I just am not noticing it?
Anyway, you can plant a tree for 80% for me but: don’t use my name.
You can use Meta_4
I’ve given up trying to analyze myself. There’s a book: Full Catastrophe Living that someone recommended to me.
I’m currently reading Anne Lamott, whom I adore, “Imperfect Birds”. She’s a wonderful writer.
In regard to anonymity and tinnitus. Going through any theraputic process is private and very intimate. Most people while they are in it (T) don’t feel up to sharing painful and devastating experiences that lead to this condition on camera.As a member who is moving forward would share via audio instead of video. Both Dianis and Julian are courageous to work this site. I have met with Julian in person for CST while in London. Although the internet runs rampant with scams-these 2 guys are for real.
Kind Regards
oh thanks s.! what a lovely comment. how wonderful to hear. isn’t it something? just because something is effective does not mean people will tell you about it. i know a martial artist who released his tinnitus, as he puts it “when he finally mourned the loss of his mother.” now, how much would it take for him, a martial arts teacher with major muscles, to come on camera and talk about it? it would take a lot. the intricacies of tinnitus necessitate a delicate process, and as people become more willing to accept responsibility and seek personal relief, they begin to do so: for themselves.
i’ve just begun testing a “profile” tool that would allow members to create a profile page. other members could potentially see the page and comment. it’s interesting how “different” that is from a public tinnitus forum. it would be a page devoted to one member’s healing process. yet the member would be “looked at,” and essentially “seen,” and that can be very embarrassing. some members have expressed deep gratitude, yet as much relief as they’ve found, they worry about their jobs, if they were to “come forward.”
something else, eh?