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Dainis, during your own recovery, did you have periods of time when your tinnitus “flared” for a few days? I thought mine was under control and them BAM. I figure it has to do with some stress and perhaps fall allergies, but it’s a real bummer handling it. I am trying to ignore it and follow Julian’s advice not to dwell on it, but when it comes back it’s so depressing.
—D’s response: Well, I learned “BioMental Training” from Dr. Hans Greuel in Germany. So, basically, I never really had “flares” until I heard about them. If the tinnitus ever bothered me, I just did my self-hypnosis techniques (BioMental Training), and when I discovered that I could reduce my tinnitus significantly (often to near nothing) every time, I just stopped worrying about it. I do not consider myself 100% “cured,” in that I do not “hear total silence” when I listen in to my tinnitus. I am far enough along to say that I’ve entered into two types of nice “spaces.” 1) Living my life such that tinnitus is not in my consciousness, whether it would be there if I were to check or not 2) Looking back at particularly peaceful moments, when I have totally forgotten about whether I could check for tinnitus or not, I suspect that it would not have been there, or I really would have needed to “try hard” to hear it.
What are some ways to handle the feeling of “defeat” when your tinnitus has been relatively quiescent and suddenly you become aware of it again, perhaps loudly and you can’t quite pinpoint why. Coping mechanisms?
Though there have been some ups and downs, I have been following the general advice of Curetinnitus.org and your book: I have been doing — as is possible — body-based therapy and also working through emotional issues in counseling.
Frequently, I will succeed in allowing myself to relax and will go to bed in relatively peaceful state in which the tinnitus seems quite calm. However, it seems that, after about 4-6 hours of sleep, I will awake to a loud pulsing — like an internal alarm clock! — in my head. It’s a sound that simply wasn’t present when I went to bed. It is loud enough to wake me (this morning for instance, I could almost sense myself being roused from a relatively deep and seemingly peaceful sleep.) So, why would the tinnitus spike like this precisely when I’m seemingly the most relaxed, that is, when I’m sleeping and not necessarily getting worked up over anything? I provide a sound-rich environment when I’m sleeping, so it’s not the case that there is silence to the tinnitus seem louder… Is it something physiological about lying down for long? Is possibly psychological that I perhaps now fear this pattern of being awakened by the tinnitus and so there is a subconscious anxiety that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy? I’m just not sure how to kick this one aspect of the tinnitus… I feel if I could cross this hurdle, I will go a long way in letting the tinnitus go… but how do I get over this hurdle? Thanks for your help!
–D’s gut response: it’s rocky now and you may be either letting off steam or accessing deeper layers and deeper issues. As your orientation to the tinnitus and those issues changes to one of greater confidence, understanding, and peace, your response to the T itself will likely change. If it wakes you, you might then say “ahh, OK, I’ll do this exercise then,” and it waking you will then matter less. Sometimes, I’ve found that having the tinnitus ringing late at night actually connects me to the real issues that are going on in my life.
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